Walk Softly (but carry a BIG stick)
We Australians are renowned for being down to earth, straightforward, tell it like it is, fair dinkum folks. It comes as no surprise that the description “Nice and Polite” doesn’t always ring true when we describe the typical Aussie.
As a career Martial Artist, perhaps I’m a little biased when I say that Respect and Politeness are basic skills that many people could benefit from learning to use more often and more effectively… and the evidence from psychological and behavioural studies supports my hypothesis.
Politeness goes a long way towards making people like you, which means they’ll want to do things that benefit you – such as spend time with you, do fun things with you, or “talk you up” to everyone they meet.
It’s fast, easy and free to use words like please, thank you and you’re welcome, or to hold the door open for the person coming through behind you, yet it can make a big difference to how people feel about you.
Just look at this video of the politest criminal you’ve ever seen.
(Not that we endorse any sort of criminal activity, but it makes the point that even when you’re literally committing daylight robbery, politeness goes a long way!)
Manners can be complex – for example, what’s polite in some cultures is considered rude or just plain weird in other cultures.
But psychologists agree that politeness is a worthwhile habit with clear benefits to individuals, businesses and society as a whole. It helps us all to get along, trust one another and avoid unnecessary confrontations.
Psychologists have even proved that expressing Gratitude to someone who’s done you a favour doesn’t only increase the likelihood that they’ll help you again in the future – it also makes them more likely to help the *next* person who asks for a favour.
So if you truly want to make the world a better place, start by minding your manners.
One more thing…… in our Zen Dan Kwan Tigers and Pandas Programmes we talk with our Students everyday about our “I Care Rules”. Things like “We listen to each other” and “Hands are for Helping, not Hurting” are just 2 of our I Care Rules.
We also teach the 5 Skills of Listening, the 6 Student Home Rules and, the now famous: 4 Rules of Earning Your Black Belt. Would someone you know benefits from learning lessons such as these?
Join us in our mission to build a better world one Black Belt at a time…..